Hey Babes! Today I decided to put together a bunch of habits that I have tried to implement in my journey of self love. I believe that these things are some habits that everyone can benefit from and will improve your mental health. Most of what I'm about to say isn't an original thought, however I wanted to compile the lessons I've learned from so many people through out my life.
When you make your bed first thing in the morning your day becomes more productive. When my bed is made I feel that once I am back home from whatever I was doing for the day I tend to keep going and work on my to do list instead of crawling into bed and binge watching Netflix until it's time to sleep. When you get things done you feel more accomplished and you in turn feel happier.
Whatever it is you need to do something for yourself everyday. I like to have a little bit of pampering at the end of the day, whether it's a face mask or a bath bomb I do something everyday. This is good way to show your self some love and it's hard to be sad when you're loving yourself.
There's something beautiful about living in the world when no one else is awake. Clearer thoughts happen and it's and excellent time to be alone with yourself. When you accomplish more in the morning and can come home to a short to do list you will be so much more productive at work, plus you will have more time for yourself and your family once you're home. Building those relationships will reduce stress and in turn help you be happy.
I like to shower at night then right after moisturize like crazy. It is so worth the extra five minutes you will take of your day. This is also a self love thing, when you take care of your body, you will learn to love it.
I know it's cliche, but trust me drink more water it is beneficial to everything. Water can boost your immune system. reduce headaches, and even clear up your skin. When you drink water in the morning it will instantly lift your mood and give you a better start to your day. Drinking water at night will help your body heal itself while you are sleeping.
When you accomplish things whether it is a fitness goal or not slapping your obnoxious coworker straight in the face that day you deserve a reward. Just be sure you reward yourself with things that won't sabotage your goals. Choose reward that will only benefit you like a candle or a new eyeshadow.
Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands, they just don't.
Hey there everyone! So I"m making a few changes to my blog. I am changing my home page to lifestyle and I'm putting beauty on the back burner for now. I want to post about something once a week and I think it'll just be whatever I'm feeling inspired about at the time. I really want to focus on body positivity and loving yourself. My sign off is going to be love your mind, love your spirit, love your body, love yourself. I think these are the most important things and once we get through these things everything else seems to fall in place. Also my posts are going to be a tad shorter but I think I'll be able to post more that way. So welcome to the new and improved Eyelashes and Curls, I hope you stay around.
One thing I've been noticing on social media more often is the amount of hate that has been going around. First of all if you have been drinking the "haterade" stop it right now, seriously you're being annoying and we know that you're better than that. If you are going around spreading hate and trying to find self love I promise you that you aren't going to find it in that state of mind. The first step of self love is to stop hating and being jealous of other people.
If you are being subjected to all the hate that's been spreading around I'm sorry. It sucks, and you need to give yourself a moment to be upset. you are human and sticks and stones break your bones and words are a very real and damaging pain. Here's the thing though, your bones heal and so will your heart.
Whenever I feel like I am being targeted by haters I always try to remember a quote that goes like this "have you ever met a hater doing better than you, cause me neither" I can't remember where I heard that but it has really gotten me through some times when I thought that I would never be successful.
Remember that your path will never be the exact same as someone else's and success is not one single definition. You are not someone else's opinion of you and you create your own destiny. Be proud of who you are!
Love your mind, love your spirit, love your body, love yourself.
For some reason in the advanced integrated society we live in stores feel the need to separate fat and skinny into their own side of a store. Not only is this a form of bodyshaming but it is also segregation. Apparently we still feel a need to put labels on people and force them into those groups never to intermingle, even after all we've gotten past as a society.
I do not understand why we have an entire new category to label people who are bigger than others, it is damaging and unnecessary. But what I really don't understand is why we have to separate them out of the "normal" clothes into a separate section of the store that is usually pushed back into a corner. And even dedicate a completely different store to them and advertise it as a place to feel comfortable. Aren't we better than this? Why can't a "plus-size" person feel comfortable around average people. And why are average people so uncomfortable around plus-size clothing.
It baffles me how long this has been going on and I have never heard a single person question it. Why do stores like Forever 21, H&M, and Maurices separate their plus size items from their "normal" size items in their stores and in some cases make completely different lines for plus sized girls. Why do stores like Lane Bryant and Torrid exist. Is it so that plus sized girls don't have to feel judged or so that they can have some type of clothing sanctuary, free from unlike sizes, like the "skinny" girls have Brandy Melville?
Why are we so afraid of people who aren't the same size as us? Why do we feel that they must hate us or have some alterior motive against us? It's time that we integrate our sizes in our stores and everywhere else. When did this war of fat people against skinny people start and why have we let it go on so long. We need to realize that we don't need to tear others down to feel good about ourselves. Let's stop throwing around phrases like "real men like curves" and "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" in an attempt to grip onto whatever shred of self esteem we have left. We have made it so far, so why are we stuck here? Why are we allowing this to happen?
It is not okay that I didn't feel comfortable in the same stores as my friends because I was much bustier than them. It was not that we weren't friends because our sizes were different, it was that the stores were alienating us as girls with much different worth. I always felt uncomfortable walking into Lane Bryant but I never felt uncomfortable once I was in the in the store, I felt that inside was freedom of clothes that zipped past the Mt. Everest that was my chest, but on the outside were all the people who knew I couldn't zip that dress from Target all the way up. The thing is, it's not the people that are the problem, in those stores I was made to feel uncomfortable because they decided not to make the dress in a size up. The problem is people who are perfectly healthy are made to feel like less because stores won't make clothing in a bigger size. If the do make bigger sizes they are banished to the other side of the store and made to feel less than the women on the other side. Why not hang the same exact shirt on the same rack with the smaller ones, and why not make the dress in a size up or heck even twelve sizes up. The only thing these stores are succeeding in is making women feel like they are less than what they are because a ordinary dress couldn't contain an extraordinary woman.
No matter how you felt when you couldn't get those pants past your hips, I promise you that your worth is never determined by what number is on a piece of fabric or how far a zipper happened to go. That dress that didn't fit may have been beautiful but you are infinitely more beautiful than it could ever be. Remember that the next time a store makes you feel like less it's not because you're not worth what the other girls are it's because that place has the inability to see your worth.
All day I hear people complimenting each other saying things like, "you look so cute today!" "your outfit looks adorable." and 'you look beautiful."
I am here to tell all of you that you don't look beautiful, just the same as you don't look smart, helpful, kind, caring and all of the other things that you are. It is time to stop saying that we look beautiful, pretty, gorgeous, etc. It is damaging to ourselves and others. It instills the idea that we can only achieve beauty for a small moment while we have nice clothes and makeup on. It makes the idea of beauty fleeting.
When you state something like you look 'sick', 'tired' or 'cold', you are referring to things that do not define you as a person, so why are we saying "you look beautiful" when beauty has everything to do with how you present yourself in your life. While beauty is something you contain in your appearance and your dress, it is also something you contain in your language and your spirit. Beauty is not something that just happens to you.
We need to remember that beauty is not something you just happen to have one day and not the next. While some days are uglier than others there is certainly some beauty to be found even in our most horrendous moments. As human beings we have to believe that we don't look beautiful, instead we know that we are beautiful.
Our beauty is held within us and can only be lost if we ourselves push it away by bullying, gossiping, and acting truly ugly till very little beauty can remain. Little by little we lose chunks of our inner beauty but continue to disguise ourselves with makeup and nice clothes. When inner beauty is gone then you might look beautiful but you can no longer be beautiful. Knowing this we must strive to perfect our inner beauty instead of neglecting it while putting on a mask to give the appearance of beauty.
We can not forget to be kind and caring so as to apply makeup to our inner beauty. Makeup on the outside wears away if it isn't maintained, therefore it does just the same on the inside. You must "touch up" your inner makeup throughout the day. I like to remind myself with a little saying that goes like this, "a compliment a day keeps the hate away." If we can remember to reapply our makeup daily our inner beauty will shine through.
Outward appearance fades but beauty is eternal. So the next time you are trying to make yourself beautiful by finding the right dress and the perfect contour technique, remember that you don't just look beautiful, you are beautiful and the only person who can take that away from you is yourself.
I've noticed many girls are very confused on how to define themselves, so they either pick option 'A' look to others to give them a definition or option 'B' find one by comparing themselves to another person. The result is complete destruction to their self esteem. The fatal flaw with option 'A' is when other people tell you that your hair is ugly or some other unnecessary insult we as humans take it as fact, because why would a stranger lie to us? They don't care to spare our feelings. So when our friends tell us that our hair is adorable two minutes later, the opposite effect takes place. We discount their necessary compliment as a lie because they clearly have the intention of protecting our emotions. Which results in the daunting truth that are hair is indeed ugly. The problem with option 'B' is when we compare ourselves to others we compare our ugly snapchat that only went to our most trusted friend, to their Photoshoped selfie that somehow reached two thousand likes on Instagram even though they only have six hundred followers. Thus resulting in the reality that we are an ugly mess and they woke up looking like a supermodel (#flawless).
The thing is other peoples opinions of you are just that, OPINIONS, they are not the final say of whether your hair is cute or not or anything else for that matter. That person probably does think your hair is ugly because it's not in their taste. What really matters is that you think it's adorable and if you like it then who cares what some stranger thinks of it or even what your friend thinks of it. We also need to remember that comparison is a vicious attack upon ourselves. We are always comparing our blooper reel to their highlights and of course our purposeful double chin can't reach to the standard of their polished contour, and it's completely ridiculous that we would even think to compare the two. At the end of the day what we look like doesn't even define us, so why does it matter?
When we are defining the word grass we don't compare it to the sky to find the right words, just the same as we don't ask someone else if they think grass is pretty to include in the definition, in fact we don't even mention whether it is appealing or not, so why do we do all of these things when define ourselves? We need to start defining ourselves as the things that we are, not the things that someone else is or says we are. When defining yourself don't include yours or others opinions on your appearance. Don't include a definition of anyone else. Instead define all of the things that YOU are. Every time you become something new like a wife, a graduate, or a homeowner etc. you should add it to the list. Add every time you do something new as well, because these things are truly what defines who you are.
Through being a beauty blogger I have learned, other peoples opinions of you are, is not who you are. You are whoever and whatever you wish to be. When you decide to be something new or to try something new while ignoring strangers input that is when your definition grows immensely. Every lime we redefine ourselves, our definition becomes something more. I have found when trying to find my definition on my own I find a new piece of me that I never knew existed. On your journey to find your definition you will find a self awareness that will give you confidence and happiness like never before. And if you don't like the definition you find you can always redefine it, because you have the power to be anything you wish to be, so go redefine yourself, because someone out there has to be all of the things you want to be. It might as well be you.
Today I'd like to talk about the F word, fat, it's the word I've heard women I looked up to call themselves in disgust, it's the word I've heard my friends call strangers at the mall, it's the word I heard the girls who used to be my friends call me in PE, and it's the word I've heard me describing myself as I looked in the mirror wishing I could be someone else.
For as long as I can remember fat has been a bad word. Unlike blonde, short and pale it has been a word I can't use to describe myself as without a thousand people telling me that I am in fact not fat and insisting that I am beautiful. That right there is my problem. I did not suffer through many years of horrible self esteem issues, because I was or thought I was fat. I went through it because I believed my being fat meant I did not have the capability of being beautiful. I was wired to believe that fat was something that I should not be and even if I was fat I should avoid to describe myself this way because that also meant I wasn't pretty. This is what we are telling our friends, our sisters, our daughters, and our nieces but fortunately we are very incorrect.
Fat is only a bad thing if we give it the power to be a bad thing. While it is always important to be healthy there are still some very healthy people are are indeed fat, and because they are fat we are telling them that they can never attain any sort of beauty. Beauty is something that cannot be limited, because beauty is always changing. However our current society is succeeding at making beauty attainable for the few but desirable for all. I have a big nose, my lashes are blonde, my lips are shaped weird and my skin is pale, all of these things make me ugly according to society but the number one reason I am ugly is I am a little fat. According to society even if I fixed everything else I would still be an ugly, fat person. The problem is I refuse to let that be the reason I don't think I am beautiful, and when I allow fat to be a good word I can no longer find a reason that I as a person am not beautiful, everything else is obsolete. I have a funny laugh, I am a positive person and I try to apologize when I should, all of these things make me a beautiful person according to me but the number one reason that I am beautiful is the belief that I am.
Why are we putting beauty into a small box, only accessible to those who can fit in, while the rest of us can only try to achieve these unrealistic standards. We have created an epidemic of unhappy people that is contagious to our children and their children and so on. Unfortunately there is no pill to cure this disease, not even counseling can completely fix this problem. We have to do it on our own. We have to remind ourselves fat is not a bad word, but it is a powerful word. It has the power to heal a society and cure us of this epidemic. So please, if you are fat, feel free to describe yourself as fat because it only has the power to be a bad word if you allow it to be. It's about time we redefine beauty to be all-inclusive because we all to beautiful to not be included.
Detox baths are one of my favorite things to do for the past few years. Detox baths are a way to help cleanse your body of harmful toxins that we obtain through our lives by the foods we eat, the products we use and the water we use. Detox baths also are relaxing and can support your body's systems. I am going to share two of my favorite detox bath recipes with you.
I like to use this recipe when I am feeling sick or have an infection. It always reduces the time that I am feeling sick, it also reduces symptoms almost immediately.
(for standard tub)
Fill your tub with warm water (as hot as you can stand it) then add
Sit in the bath for 25 minutes and drink lots of water while in the bath to avoid dehydration
I like this recipe for when I am in need of relaxation and some stress relief. It is really nice when you are overwhelmed and need some refocusing.
(for standard tub)
Fill your tub with warm water then add
mix the bath well before stepping in. Sit in the bath for 30 minutes and drinks lots of water to avoid dehydration.
Let me know if you try these recipes or if you have any that you love. Thanks for reading!
May the wings of your eyeliner always be even,
I think we all can agree fall is one fan-friggin-tastic season. I wanted to share with you some of my fall favorites. I'm not going to necessarily name any specific products mostly just things that make Fall Pumpkin-tastic!
YUMMY SMELLING CANDLES
Candles are seriously my favorite of anything in the history of ever. I love just buying random candles from stores like Joanns and Target because they usually are just loverly and always smell so amaze. Lately I have been using bath and body works three wick candles one of my new favorites is Salted Caramel Corn. Seriously it is the bomb diggity. I also really like anthropologie candles, plus they usually come in super cute jars so you have a cute jar when you are done with your candle. For cheaper candle options I really like glade's seasonal scents.
I am a huge fan of comfy clothes that look like you actually tried even though in reality you gave up a really long time ago. Sweaters are super cute and look nice while being comfy and cozy. I also love how you can just wear a sweater by itself or you can dress it up with scarves and necklaces or you can layer it with another shirt. I have gotten some sweaters I love from Downeast Basics and H&M. Anthropoligie also has some super adorable and comfy sweaters. The Lauren Conrad sweaters in her line this season are super adorable.
From pumpkin rolls to a pumpkin spice frappe I love it all! I think pumpkin is the real reason fall is so incredibly amazing and also the abundance of holidays that one of the major purposes is food without judgement. Back to pumpkins they can even be decorated all cute I am loving the chic and elegant pumpkins that have been all over pinterest. Seriously the pumpkin is definitely superior to all gourds and squashes; that's you don't see zucchini patches popping up everywhere.
I am addicted to lipstick and am a firm believer that there is something in it that just makes everything better. Lately I have been crushing on burgundy lipstick. I have seen it all over pinterest and in tons magazines and I seriously love it so much. It so vampy and chic and unexpected. I love that dark lipsticks are becoming more popular now and that the rest of the world is finally realizing how great dark lipstick is.
I finally got myself a kimono and I fell in love. They are so comfortable and cute and super easy to layer with other shirts. Although I've mostly seen them in summery type outfits I think they are adorable for fall outfits especially when paired with boots or pants with a heavy texture like corduroys or thick jeans.
I have wanted a tulle skirt for the longest time. I have pinned so many on pinterest and they are seriously so dang cute for fall when paired with a sweater and a statement necklace or statement tees and a blazer. I also love them with plaid flannels. I finally bought one a few days ago mostly for my sisters wedding but also because I was just dying to have one. The one I bought is from the new Lauren Conrad line and is beyond adorable. I also have been crushing on a super cute one at Winsdor that is beyond adorable.
Flannels are legitimately God's gift to the world. I have no idea why I didn't jump on this flannel bandwagon earlier. I love making outfits around flannels, dressing them up and down is so fun. Flannels work with pretty much every season so they are a very good investment and they are so easy to style like seriously anyone could do it.
Thanks for reading.